For many of us, traveling provides an opportunity to break free from your daily routine and let your hair down. The feeling of being free and the desire for exploration kicks in, and you’re no longer ‘too cautious.’ Being away from home increases the potential for casual sex, mostly because of alcohol, drug use, and peer pressure. Travel excitements and the desire to make the most out of the experience might also lead you into dropping your guard and principles like practicing safe sex.
And while there’s nothing wrong with loosening the grip, especially when on the road, research shows that travelers are particularly vulnerable to Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) because of their sexual behavior. So, how do you have better and safer sex while traveling?
This informative guide will help you plan for the trip accordingly, so you can enjoy your time on the road without endangering your health and that of those around you.
1. Consent Never Goes Out of Fashion.
I don’t care where you’re traveling to, but the rules of sexual consent remain the same. And more so, where cultural and language barriers may exist, you must ask for it. Not once, not twice, but severally – ‘consent is continual, mutual, freely given, specific, and can be withdrawn at any time.’ So, just because your partner was okay with a casual kiss at the bar doesn’t mean they want to have sex with you. Some will even agree with touching and kissing, but never penetrative sex, which is okay.
All parties must agree as to what they what to happen and what they don’t. For instance, an individual might be okay with going home with you to have a few extra drinks and party together, but not okay with having sexual intercourse. Most importantly, avoid having sex while intoxicated because it undermines consent. And even when consent is mutual, if a partner says stop, any extra advances aren’t mutually consensual.
2. Know Your Status Before Hitting the Road
Getting tested for Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) can be scary, especially for first-timers. However, not knowing your status is a lot worse. I recommend regularly getting tested, yearly if you aren’t a regular traveler and twice in a year if you are. The best thing about it is it’s affordable, and you don’t even need insurance.
Getting tested before leaving allows you to make the necessary arrangements in advance. If you have an STD, then you know what to tell your partner to avoid transmitting it. In most cases, you can cancel or postpone the trip until you’re okay, especially if you have a short-term infection. If you get a clean bill of health, proceed with the trip and protect yourself by either abstaining or using protection.
3. Learn About the Local Sexual Etiquette
Just because you can get away with a certain act in your country doesn’t mean the same will happen when visiting other countries. Different regions around the world have varying norms when it comes to sex and intimacy. In some countries like Dubai, China, and Indonesia, kissing in public is forbidden. So, if you’re visiting such a country, avoid kissing or any public displays of affection because you risk the public’s wrath or even rubbing shoulders with authorities. If you have to do it, get a private room and enjoy each other’s company without worrying about getting caught. It’s sexier, and you’ll probably get a more classy date when you have a room rather than trying to sneak one in the restrooms.
Other regions have unique traditions, especially when welcoming visitors. For instance, in the Namibian tribe of Himba, tribeswomen welcome guests with sex. However, don’t feel compelled to do something you’re uncomfortable doing.
Besides understanding the local sexual etiquette, learn about safe and unsafe areas to live in, especially when you travel abroad. In some countries and regions, the locals will target visitors, usually robbing and harming them. So, make sure you pick a safe area to stay for the night, and if you plan on going out, know the best bars around and always plan how to get back to the house safely beforehand.
4. Pack Your Own Stash. Yes. Carry Your Condoms!
When gathering your travel essentials, make sure you slide in a few packets of your favorite condoms. Of course, the number will depend on whether you plan on having sex and how often you envision yourself getting laid but makes sure you leave with a few. Please don’t assume that you’ll close the bridge when you get there, or he’ll come with the condoms. Take charge and protect yourself from STIs and unwanted pregnancy.
Condoms are affordable, lightweight, and TSA-compliant, so you don’t have a reason not to pack some. And even if you don’t use them, condoms aren’t milk; they won’t go bad.
5. How About Some Travel-Friendly Sex Toys?
As stressed earlier, you don’t have to engage in sexual activities or anything you aren’t comfortable with. So, what do you do if you want to get it on and unsure about the hot guy winking at you in the bar? Or maybe you’re not as quick to get intimate with a stranger but are in dire need of sexual pleasure-on-the-road? Well, this is where sex toys come in.
Luckily, there are loads of travel-friendly sex toys for you to choose from. Bullet and egg vibrators, in particular, are perfect travel companions due to their small size and discreet design.” Other great travel-friendly sex toy choices include;
- We-Vibe Tango
- Hot Octopus DiGiT
- Lelo Mia 2
- Crave Vesper
- Dame Products Eva II
Before you start packing your favorite sex toy, it’s essential that you understand the laws in your destination. For starters, countries like Saudi Arabia, the United Arab Emirates, Maldives, Malaysia, Thailand, India, and Vietnam outlaw sex toys, and you’ll probably have to surrender yours to the customs officials. The state of Alabama, USA, also has an anti-obscenity law that prohibits the sale of sex toys.
Surprised? Ensure you’re fully aware of your destination’s rules and regulations and save yourself from disappointment.
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